creative little daisy

And empty nester, once again

This is going to be a hard post to write. I know it will leave me in tears and I will struggle with how to best put this tangled mix of emotions I'm having into words. For that reason, I've been putting it off. Sometimes waiting is good.

As a side note, I read a list of blog pet peeves recently and apparently some folks don't like it when a blogger shares personal stories. If you are one of those folks, I will not mind if you want to click away now. This is going to be all about me. 

Several years ago I was watching Desperate Housewives and one particular scene struck a personal cord and seemed to touch my very soul. I felt the pain of the actress like it was my own. I can't tell you any other part of the show, just once scene that lasted a minute or two. In that scene, Bree opened a kitchen drawer and noticed a sippy cup. She melted into an emotional puddle of sadness. For some reason I felt her pain and wanted to turn away because somehow I knew I would one day feel that same pain.

My story plays out much differently than Bree's but I know the pain of noticing a sippy cup when the child no longer lives with you.

I don't know how much backstory I need to go into. I blab about Bayleigh enough that surely it's evident she's the light of my life. 

As I've said before the story of Alyssa's marriage isn't mine to tell. She married Bayleigh's father young and tried very hard to make it work. Very hard. When she felt like she had given it all she could I let her know that she should not stay out of fear for how she would care for herself and her child alone. But even before that, she and Bayleigh spent a great deal of time here. I cared for Bayleigh while Alyssa finished nursing school and then when she started working. So, from the time she was born, we've had a bond. I think because I had such a special bond with my granny, it gave me a full circle kind of feeling. Like I was giving back something special that was given to me.

When they moved into the room upstairs, it was never intended to be permanent. It was just our way of giving Alyssa a soft place to land and to provide as much support as we could for both her and Bayleigh.

Well the time has come for her to move on, to be out of her parent's house. She is in a relationship with a very nice man. A man who is responsible and kind and is good to both she and Bayleigh. A couple of weeks ago Bayleigh started pre-K and started staying full time in their new apartment about 45 minutes away. I'm not going to lie, it breaks my heart to type those words. Not because I have any worries about her care, but just because I have been joined at the hip with that little peanut for the past four and a half years.  It is such a mixed up bunch of feelings I have. On one hand, I have so much free time now. Plenty of time for sewing and building and painting, and most days, I am fine. Maybe better than I thought I would be. But there are those moments. Those Bree sippy cup moments when I feel like I could cry a river. It wasn't easy on Bayleigh at first either. She missed her nana and papa as much as we missed her, but every day has been easier for her than the previous day. She went to school this morning without any tears. I'm learning how to live as an empty nester once again.

So there you have it, that's where things are with me. I'm a little fragile, but very proud. I'm proud of Bayleigh for being such a big girl and I'm proud of her mama for being such a good mama. I'm proud that they are fluffing their own little nest. A nest a little closer to nana's would have been nice, but still, I'm proud.

A few details

When we built this house 16 years ago, we had to cut many of the extras that were included in the plans. One of those was a finished bonus room over the garage. Over time Mitch put sheet rock up and had it wired, but for all those years it was just an overflow from the attic. Particle board floors, bare bulb lights, untrimmed window... bare bones.

The only access to the room was by pull down attic stairs in the garage.

I won't go into the details of how Alyssa's marriage ended, it's not my story to tell. But as a mom, I didn't want my child to stay in an unhappy situation because she felt she had nowhere else to go, no other options. Without thought as to how we would make it work, I told her we would turn the bonus room into an apartment for her and Bayleigh. A little to my surprise and much to my relief she accepted the offer.

We began work last summer. It was slow going as we did most of the work ourselves. We hired a carpenter to build the stairs and frame in a bathroom and a friend of Mitch's helped him with the electrical work. My nephews helped with some of the painting and a friend of Alyssa's did some sheet rock work. 

We didn't have a very big budget to work with. The biggest chunk went to getting the stairs built. Alyssa chipped in on much of the expense, but ultimately, finishing the room will add to the value of our home, so we covered the structural stuff.

Mitch built this book shelf that serves as a divider between the room and the stairway.

And now

He also did the plumbing on  a small powder room that is at the base of the stairs and this little kitchen area. We found the cabinets at the Habitat Re-Store for 15 bucks each. We saved our old counters when we installed butcher-block and one section fit perfectly on the cabinets. Alyssa purchased a sink and faucet from O.com, and a friend gave her a fridge. A couple of shelves and some pretty dishes and they have a little kitchen. 

Alyssa purchased the Hemnes daybed from IKEA because it has three huge drawers for storage, can serve as seating during the day and also pulls out to become a king-size bed. Yes, I said a king-size.

Here it is during the day,

and at night.

Surprisingly , the room doesn't feel claustrophobic, even with the bed pulled out.

The "built-ins" on either side of the bed started out as this

Two laminate cabinets from Lowes.

I added some trim and beadboard wallpaper.

Left over stair treads were used for the tops.

A little more trim to bridge the gap between the cabinet and the wall, and a little white paint to finish it off.

They provide quite a bit of storage and don't take up much floor space.

The dandelion wall art was made from leftover wall planks, painted by Mitch. It was inspired by Bayleigh's love for dandelions and the design on our matching tattoos.  I knew we needed something large for that wall and I wanted it to tie in with the plank wall opposite. When I came across this on pinterest, by DIY Diva I knew that's what I wanted.

You can read about the wood plank wall here.

Lighting is from Lowes.

Flooring is Allure vinyl planks in hickory from Home Depot.

There you have it, our journey from an unfinished bonus room to a little attic apartment.   

If you see anything I didn't cover, just ask. I'll be glad to answer any questions.

 

I'll be linking to some of these parties.

 

As I sit here with an ice pack on my back,

with three days left in the month, I have come to the realization, I will not be meeting the challenge. Dang it. I really, really wanted to build a sofa table.  I still plan to get it done, but not before the end of the month. Frowny face.  It was looking a bit doubtful that I would get it done anyway, but there was still hope, then I pulled a muscle in my back. Standing up straight is about as much challenge as I can see myself taking on in the next couple of days.

I've not been a complete slacker the whole month. We've accomplished lots in the apartment, and they have actually moved in. I'm really excited about how it all came together. It's much roomier than any of us expected.

I'll go into more detail in another post, for now I'll just share a few pictures.

We aren't 100% finished, there are pictures to hang, some touch up painting to do... minor details at this point. For now, the girls are happy to call it home sweet home.

 

What can you say about caulk?

It's messy, it's tedious, it's not the least bit fun, and for the most part, no one ever even notices it, if it's done right that is. People get all excited about paint. Throw some wood on the walls and it's a party. Caulk is like the eyebrow or moustache waxing of DIY. It doesn't get much attention unless you don't do it.

Yesterday I caulked the stairs. It took a long time, a lot of tape and pretty near a whole roll of paper towels.

This is what the stairs looked like after staining the treads and painting the risers. Not too good. That's a bummer. You do all that work and stand back to admire the lovely....cracks. Even though I spent hours sanding and staining, sanding more and applying polyurethane. Taping and priming and painting. Three coats. It looked like crap. All you could see was cracks and imperfections.

Now, let me say, there will be no after photos of perfection. I'm not a great caulker, but it will pass, and there are no glaring cracks staring at me.

More importantly in this case, there are no cracks for hot or cold air to creep through.

I'm not going to give a tutorial on caulking.

I'm in no way qualified. But I did find a product recently that makes me dread the job less.

Caulk-EZ

I'm not in any way being compensated for mentioning Caulk-EZ. I just happened to come across it when searching tips on removing old caulk.

There is a video on the site that shows how to use it. Basically you just run your bead of caulk and spray the Caulk-EZ along the line, then run your finger along the line, like you normally would.

The caulk smooths out beautifully. It doesn't get all over the surrounding area, and though it still gets on your fingers, it's much less messy.

I used one roll of paper towels, as opposed to two, but I'm the messiest DIYer ever.

By no means perfect, but no more cracks and gaps

Now excuse me, I have about 20 more things I need to mark off the to-do list to get that room finished.

 

PS

On an entirely different note, I need help with my blog. I have been reluctant to admit that. I've always just played around with the layout, and through trial and error got things somewhat presentable. These days, I can barely find the time to post, much less to tweak the blog design. I don't make money on the blog, so it's hard to justify forking out big bucks to make it pretty. If there is anyone out there interested in helping a sister out, maybe we could work out some sort of trade. Free advertising? Cheap labor? I'm pretty good with a sewing machine... 

 

Palletless Pallet Wall how to~

I usually like to share thrifty decorating solutions.

This was one occasion when we decided we'd rather spend

a little money and save a lot of time and effort.

The product I used for my wood plank wall

is v groove wood planks by

EverTrue,

sold in packs of 6 eight foot long planks.

The package says it will cover 14 sq feet.

Our wall is 11 feet wide by 8 feet tall

or 88 square feet, so we bought seven packs.

I also bought three small cans of wood stain,

a light shade, a dark shade and gray.

The light shade was golden oak.

Don't buy this unless you're going for the color of mustard. Blech!

That other can is one I already had.

I usually buy Minwax stain, but I decided to give the Rustoleum a try.

I liked it. Especially the gray.

I stained all of the boards, brushing the stain on, letting it sit a couple of minutes,

then wiped off the excess.

Some I just used the gray stain, some the dark. For some I dry brushed the dark over the gray

and others I stained dark then brushed the gray over.

I was just going for old looking and

wanted quite a bit of variation in colors.

I brought them into the room and laid them out,

according to color.

The foreman was present, to make sure the job was done right,

as usual.

Mitch did the first few rows, before he had to go to work and I finished it up.

He started by finding the studs to determine where we would nail,

but these guys are so light, you don't really have to hit a stud.

There was no formula to our cuts,

we just knew we wanted it to look random, no pattern.

When we got to the outlets, Mitch notched out around them.

He used a coping saw, but said a utility knife would probably work.

We attached them to the wall with an air powered stapler. (from Harbor Freight)

Again, being supervised every step of the way.

The boards are tongue and grove so they lock together.

I was able to put up several rows before actually securing

them to the wall,

That allowed me to be sure I was happy with the layout.

We started at the floor and luckily it worked out

that I was able to finish with a full sized board at the ceiling.

The only place we had to cut the width of the boards was just above and below the window.

Mitch made those cuts and used a box cutter. 

The back of the planks have channels or grooves you can follow for cutting.

You can see in the photo below, the piece above the window

is pretty thin and it broke before I got it installed.

I taped it together and kept installing,

Once it was all up we removed the tape

and patched it with wood putty.

It blended right in.

This is one time I'm so happy Mitch didn't want to go along

with my plan. Shhh, don't tell him I said that.

Remember, the room is unfinished.  Excuse the unpainted window trim.

Don't mind the saw on the floor and the ladder in the corner.

Or the bare light bulb hanging from the ceiling.

We can't seem to find the light fixtures we

purchased at IKEA.

It's a bit of a mess around here.

Finishing up this wall has given me

an extra little push to forge ahead.

It's nice to see my vision coming to life.

 

Sharing is fun! Check out these parties~

 

Apartment happenings

I haven't updated on Alyssa's apartment in a while.

It has been much slower going than I anticipated,

but I hope we've reached a point where the end is in sight.

If you squint, and crook your head to the side, you can see the end.

Mitch put the flooring down last week.

Allure vinyl planks from Home Depot.

The job foreman was constantly watching over his shoulder to make sure he was doing it right.

There you get a little peek at the barn door Mitch constructed for the attic access.

I've been itching to have a place to use a barn door

since seeing this beauty.

(source)

Mitch quickly squashed my dreams, telling me it wouldn't work.

We need a door that will seal out the heat and cold from the attic.

A sliding door would make it difficult to heat and cool the room efficiently.

What if it isn't on a slider?  What if it actually opens and closes, could we have a barn door then?

That poor man. He puts up with so much from me and my design whims. 

Without argument he went right to building me a barn door.

And a lovely barn door it is.

I will be staining the pine boards and the siding in the center

will be painted white.

The walls will remain white.

 well three of them.

For the wall opposite the barn door wall, I wanted to do a pallet wall.

 

Attic Progress

I promised to share the work on the attic apartment,

and I haven't been holding out,

there just hasn't been much to share.

We were super excited when the stairs went in.

A small powder room was framed in.

And then everything got covered with sheetrock.

And then.... nothing. Nothing has gone on for at least a couple of weeks.

Today Mitch got started putting the flooring down.

This is standing in the doorway that goes into my dining room, looking into the tiny powder room.

This view is from the stairs, looking down into the powder room.

To the left is a door leading into the house through the dining room.

To the right is a door into the garage.

This is standing on the steps, looking into the actual attic.

Obviously still storing junk.

It's 11' x 22'. Not very big, but we plan to make every square inch count.

There will be a small kitchen area at this end of the room,

just off the stairs,  with a sink, mini fridge, and microwave.

We plan to do some built-ins that will be between the studs in the wall,

so as to not use valuable floor space for clothes storage.

At the far end there will be a window seat flanked by built ins for more storage.

A friend is giving Alyssa a futon that will be seating during the day and a bed at night.

With the floor going down, I can visualize it. It's beginning to take shape.

I hope they can be in before Christmas.

 

The flooring is Allure vinyl planks from Home Depot in Hickory.

Closer

I'm sure I'll never be done with my kitchen, but I do believe I've moved into a more classic direction that I will not tire of as soon. It's beginning to feel settled and comfortable. Just like it is supposed to be this way, not like it's decorated. Does that make sense? It's like me in jeans and a tee as opposed to a dress and heels. I can put on a dress and heels and look nice, but it feels temporary, like I can't wait to get home and be me. The real me in jeans and a tee. I feel like my kitchen has finally found a comfy pair of jeans and a clean tee. Jeans that fit and make her butt look good.

I finished painting the front side of the bar.

I love the added details.

For my birthday, I got two school house style light fixtures.

 
Notice anything else new in this picture??

Bar stools!! I love these bar stools!! I've been dreaming of stools like these, coveting stools like these. Pinning every similar stool I saw. Wishing for these stools. But the thing is, they were way out of my budget. I could in no way justify or afford spending over three hundred dollars for something I didn't need. Yes, I wanted them bunches, but didn't need them one bit. So I decided if I could sell something I no longer needed, something that was just taking up space, I could get the stools. Long story short, I sold a commercial sewing machine I had in the garage and had not used in more than a year for almost exactly what the stools cost. Win, win! More space in the garage, and NEW STOOLS!! I also sold the old stools on craigslist. Triple win.

Did I mention I love these stools?

They are heavy and sturdy and lovely and I.... well  you know.

While I was busy tweaking, I roped Mitch in, as I always do, and we installed some under-cabinet lighting. We purchased it at least 5 years ago, probably more like 10 and just never put it up.

Now if I could find something in the garage to sell that would bring a couple grand I'd get new appliances. Yea, I don't think that's too likely.

I guess she's wearing her comfy jeans with a clean tee and old worn in shoes.

{Dough bowl made my Mitch's grandfather}

It's noisy around here

Delightfully noisy! Work has begun on the attic apartment.

Those are Mike's legs. Mike will be building stairs and possibly a tiny powder room.

So far he has removed the pull-down access stairs and made the opening larger.

Not very exciting photos, but fun stuff I tell ya!

I have a few recipes to share. Which would you like first, tomato pie or grilled green beans?