How do you measure success? That's a question I've given some thought to recently. Mitch and I had a conversation about success in life and achievement and what exactly that is. He said, "I wonder what drives one child to succeed, to make good grades in school, go on to do well in college and have high paying jobs and another not have the same ambition. Some children seem destined to do well, they come from wealthy families, and surround themselves with like people." All this was brought about discussing how concerned we are for our children's future. Casey in particular doesn't seem to grasp the importance of getting good grades and making the most of his education. Neither Mitch or myself went to college after high school. He went straight to work and has been working since. He has natural abilities that can't be taught with books and a stronger work ethic than anyone I know. I eventually went to nursing school after having both my children, but I've never felt like that nursing degree was a magical piece of paper that said I was a success. I had succeeded in a goal, yes, but that didn't make my life a success nor would it have been a failure had I not received that degree. I had to disagree with him about what he was using as a measure of success. I want to know our children will be able to live a life that is comfortable and without financial worries but more than that I want them to be happy with who they are and who they spend their lives with. We are miles away from being wealthy, I'd say we do good to get by in the current economy but I don't feel like we are failures. I know many people who are financially secure and yet I wouldn't trade places with them. I can count so many ways I consider my life successful and not a one of them involves wealth or status. I may not have always felt this way, but today I'm grateful that I have a feeling of satisfaction with my life, a sense of true happiness that money could never buy and I call that success.
Some of the things I am grateful for that money can't buy:
- My faith
- My marriage and the feeling that he is an extension of me and I him
- My children ( although some days I've considered trying to sell them... just kidding). I love them both so much, even when we don't see eye to eye. They each have special qualities that make me so proud to be their mother.
- Friendship- true sister like friendship
- Memories of loved ones no longer with me
- Wisdom that only comes from life lessons, not books
- Excitement about new challenges
- Contentment with being me
And the unconditional love I get from these guys. (Angel too, she just didn't happen to get in the picture this time)
Happy Friday, have a great weekend!
Oh, I almost forgot. In yesterday's post I shared some views of my corner of the world and invited you to share yours, Patricia played along. Anyone else?